What Happens when you Lose Yourself in a Relationship

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how we can make our relationships the be-all-and-end-all. And let’s be honest, it’s so easy to do that when you get caught up and swept away in something. But then what happens is that when that relationships ends (which ironically, it inevitably will if it becomes your entire world), you feel like you’re left with nothing. You’ve lost sight of yourself, your values, your boundaries and so piecing all of that together (as well as your broken heart) can be hugely trying and overwhelming.

Remember that an amazing relationship shouldn’t make you feel like you have to invest absolutely everything into it - including your time and emotions. When you lose yourself completely in it, you become more reactive, less in control of your emotions and your entire world becomes all about the other person and the relationship. Sometimes it takes for that relationship to break up to realise it though. And to understand what you need to set boundaries on when it comes to future relationships and even people you’re dating.

It’s funny because I was thinking about this and then my attention very randomly got caught by a song called When You Make Love Your Everything by this freaking AMAZING singer/songwriter called Rooty. If you can manage to avoid getting overly distracted by her ridiculously gorgeous voice, the lyrics are everything in relation to not giving your life to a relationship.

Enjoy! xx